Yesterday I was clean­ing out my desk draw­ers at work. I came across a note­book that I had once used as a jour­nal. I want to share with you an entry that absolutely threw me for a loop. I know that many of you will relate to these words of mine from about three years ago. You may even be feel­ing the same way right in this moment. Read more

Last week, I wrote can­didly about gos­sip and explored some of the lim­it­ing beliefs that live below the sur­face of my gos­sip habit. Today, I will show you my favorite method for dis­solv­ing these sorts of beliefs. Read more

“If you can’t say any­thing nice, come sit by me.” — Clairee in Steel Magnolias

Gossip is an un-joyful habit I engage in with a fair amount of reg­u­lar­ity. Cause it’s fun! But only sort of. Okay, maybe not really at all. It’s that super­fi­cial sort of fun that feels good in the moment, but leaves me feel­ing icky later. Gossiping makes me a worse per­son. No doubt about it. It steals my joy. STEALS MY JOY. Yuck. Read more

What food rules and restric­tions have you set for your­self and why? Are those rules serv­ing you well? Do they increase or decrease your joy? Are they com­ing from fear or love?

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Melissa Anderson is one of the coolest peo­ple I know. She is a sci­en­tist, a marathon run­ner, a deep thinker, and totally freakin’ hilar­i­ous. I am thrilled to have devel­oped a friend­ship with her and very excited to share a piece she has writ­ten about her own expe­ri­ences with neg­a­tive thoughts. Enjoy!

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If you haven’t been fol­low­ing this three-part series on han­dling unhelp­ful thoughts, you may want to begin by check­ing out my two pre­vi­ous posts on this subject:

Step 1:  Watch your thoughts

Step 2: Question your thoughts

Today, I am shar­ing step 3, which is to recre­ate your thoughts.

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Welcome to part two of  a three-part series on thoughts. Chances are, your thoughts are keep­ing you blocked from a great deal of joy.  Last week, I shared the foun­da­tional skill of watch­ing your thoughts. Now, it’s time to ques­tion them. Read more

Last week, I posted twice about the impor­tance of fully expe­ri­enc­ing neg­a­tive feel­ings rather than try­ing to fix them or run from them. But what about neg­a­tive thoughts? I have found there are three basic steps for han­dling unhelp­ful thoughts: watch them, ques­tion them, and recre­ate them. Because each step is rather involved, I am divid­ing this post into three parts, each part focused on one of the steps. Read more