7 Responses to “[Monday Morning Spark] Less Judgement = More Connection”

1. Bridgette says:

   March 19, 2012 at 8:35 am

   These films are such a great way to start my week.. Thankyou, from the bot­tom of my heart!

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   • Joy Tanksley says:

     March 19, 2012 at 10:47 am

     Oh, thank YOU for watch­ing. It’s truly my plea­sure. xoxo

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2. Kate says:

   March 20, 2012 at 12:31 am

   Oh, Joy, I hear this one loud & clear! Yes to tak­ing another look at my “everyone’s” and “everything’s.” When I get more spe­cific and cut the drama of gen­er­al­iz­ing, I some­times see that I’m shuf­fling off some of my own feel­ings onto “every­one” and let­ting them take the rap for some­thing I’m impos­ing on myself. This is a great tool and one I will use again and again.
   As so often, you speak straight to my heart with what I most need to learn. Thank you!!!

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   • Joy Tanksley says:

     March 20, 2012 at 9:13 am

     So glad this con­nected for you! And believe me, I’m totally with you when it comes to need­ing this tool. I just found myself say­ing this morn­ing some­thing along the lines of, “Everyone on Facebook keeps post­ing offen­sive polit­i­cal rants!” And guess what? It was one per­son. Literally. ONE. Hahahahaha!

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3. Jet Harrington says:

   March 20, 2012 at 2:38 pm

   In our house we joke about how if some­thing hap­pens once, we don’t notice it. If it hap­pens twice, it always hap­pens. And if it hap­pens again, it has never been any other way. It is amaz­ing how often this bears out in human relations.

   I have also had this expe­ri­ence in the class­room, hav­ing one or two kids not get what I’m doing there, and then com­ing home feel­ing like no one gets it, and I am wast­ing my time. That is never true. Really, even IF no one gets it, I am not wast­ing my time — just being there shows my stu­dents that some­one cares, that I care, that they are worth my time and effort.

   And the fact is, there is always at least some­one who gets it. And reach­ing even that one kid makes it all worth­while. As long as I can remem­ber that one kid.

   Thank you for the reminders, and for artic­u­lat­ing so well some­thing so impor­tant. I appre­ci­ate the way you dis­till ideas down to their essence — the tweet­able sound bites, if you will — so that I can make note and take it with me.

   <3
   Jet Harrington´s last [type] ..per­mis­sion to shine

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   • Joy Tanksley says:

     March 20, 2012 at 3:40 pm

     I love this: “Really, even IF no one gets it, I am not wast­ing my time — just being there shows my stu­dents that some­one cares, that I care, that they are worth my time and effort.”

     It’s so easy to for­get this, and it applies way beyond teach­ing. One of my dear­est friends (who is also a teacher) was remind­ing me just the other day about view­ing our inter­ac­tions with oth­ers as plan­ing seeds. We don’t always see what will one day grow and bloom, but the energy we share def­i­nitely MATTERS. Such a good rea­son to release judge­ments as best we can and cre­ate the space for con­nec­tion — even if we don’t get to feel the con­nec­tion right in the moment.

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     • Jet Harrington says:

       March 20, 2012 at 4:35 pm

       That’s a tough one for the ego, isn’t it? Not see­ing how things grow and bloom. It takes more con­fi­dence — and faith — to con­tinue to cul­ti­vate con­nec­tion and com­pas­sion with­out know­ing for sure how it will turn out. That reminds me of what you’ve said about being pow­er­ful, but not nec­es­sar­ily in con­trol.
       Jet Harrington´s last [type] ..per­mis­sion to shine

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